Celebrating Me: Ole Virgo Bae and the Lessons Learned

Monday, September 11, 2017

Hey Mofo friends!

Yeah it's me..not a guest blogger! Y'all shadier than the threat of Shady Pines on the Golden Girls.

Anyhoo.. today is my birthday! *waits for applause while I adjust my crown*

But.. another year means more lessons learned. So I thought I'd look back at some of the lessons that I've learned over the past few years--cuz issa no on me telling some of you nosy arse mofos how old I really am. Some haven't been without pure utter heartbreak, and others well hell all you can do is laugh.

What you mean Meik?

Lemme just get into this list mmmk?

1. You ain't for everybody.

Whew jeeeezus. For the longest time I tried to appease folks and tried to make sure everyone liked me and if they didn't I needed to know WHYYYYYYYYY cuz I'm FABULOUS?! Getting older has taught me that you just have to accept that you are not everybody's cup of tea just like they aren't mine.

2. Your passion doesn't require approval.

I get it.. a lot of folks ain't into old school music and the whole where are they now-- and that's okay.. you don't have to read or like it, but what you won't do is stop my hustle and coins. Can I get an amen?

I can't tell you how many jokes and smart arse comments I have heard over the years about the folks I love to chat with. But can you say that you have talked with legends like Patti LaBelle, the Jacksons, Slick Rick, and the list goes on and on and on and on? No? Ok.. shhhhh.

3. My nerves ain't built to date for sport.

Some of y'all are good with having a hoe-tation or even keeping a starting line-up. I'm old and can't keep up with Ronnie, Bobby, Rickey, Mike, Ralph, and Johnny. I can only handle ONE AT A TIME. I'm also not dating to have a hunch buddy but a relationship that leads to marriage. Maybe that's why I'm still single? Hmmmm...

Do y'all keep index cards to keep your dating schedule tight? I have questions.

4. There must be work-life balance.

This year marks 12 years in the same newsroom and I realized that during that 12 years --I ain't had NOT ONE boyfriend. Lemme repeat that..NOT ONE. Well, I'm not counting that boo I had for two days. Anyway, my dating life is about as bare as Kim K's body pics on the internet. I also realized that the invites stopped coming to attend events because I always have to work. I spend my entire life in that newsroom but the good news is..change is coming. More on that later.

5. Have an open mind and don't set yourself up with those high expectations!

After recently reconnecting with someone I realized that I had him completely pegged wrong. But because I had an open mind, I found that he actually is someone I'd want to be friends with. You never know who you might miss on when you have a closed mind. I'm learning a lot about keeping an open mind during my blogs for WEtv-- who knew a matchmaker show could help show you what you are doing all the way wrong?! HOWEVER some of y'all I wish I would have kept my mind closed on but that's a blog for another day bloop!

Chile going into ish with expectations is a recipe for disaster. I can't tell you how many times in my head I figured things would turn out like x,y, and z and a walk down the aisle and all it resulted in was me blocking a crazy mofo and hoping I don't run into him.

6. It's okay to ask for help.

I am independent She-Ra hear me roar! But as I get ready to venture down a new path, I'm realizing I need help and resources, and while asking for help hurts- sometimes it's necessary and it also weeds out the mofos that always say HOLLA IF YOU NEED ME and when you do--it's pure crickets. I SEE YOU!

7. Gratitude is the attitude.

One thing Kashif always taught me was the power of positive thinking and being grateful. I didn't really understand that concept until a few months after he passed away then I thought oooooooh THAT is what he meant. When you are grateful and positive, you don't spend your energy on the negative bull ish and you can speak things into existence. I am grateful for everything, every experience good or bad, and all the triflin mofos that have come and gone.

8. Accepting yourself.

It has taken a long time to get here and I still have a ways to go. 10 or hell even 5 years ago I would look in the mirror and couldn't deal with the person looking back at me. Now, I'm still like bish this gut has gotta go, but I am embracing my lil jelly roll, and embracing all of my quirks, accepting that I'm me--that ole virgo bae.

Of course the list goes on and on with the lessons but I'm tired of typing. Judge your mammy not me.

Thank you all for rocking with me on this blog even tho I barely write over here. Make sure you check out the new show that I'm on called The Date Sheet:

Let me know what you think!

Always in Gratitude,

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