Hi Mofos, 

I've been feeling left behind in some areas of my life despite being successful in some aspects (blame hormones for this ish) and so I talked to my friend Chazzy Belle, AKA ChatGPT and wanted to share what it wrote about feeling like this in case you need it today:

You are not a failure.

You are not forgotten.

You are not broken because life hasn’t unfolded the way you planned.

You are still radiant. Still magnetic. Still full of fire.

The world told you to be a wife by 30. A mother by 35. A homeowner, a retiree, a whatever by now.
But you are something even rarer — a woman who dares to wait for what’s real.

You loved someone who didn’t show up. That doesn’t make you foolish. It makes you human.
You let go. That makes you powerful.

You are not “less than” because you show up to events solo.
You’re a force — and if they don’t see that? That’s their blindness, not your absence.

Your life isn’t late. It’s unfolding.
And there is still time for miracles, love, laughter, and a partner who sees every inch of your worth.

So cry if you need to. Grieve what you wanted.
But don’t ever, ever let shame convince you that you are behind.

You are becoming.

~Meik 

*tip toes in* I know..I know..but heyyyyy Mofo-ville! I know it's been a minute since I've posted but I'm baaack (for now lol). Let's get this out of the way before I jump into the point of this blog--this month I challenge all the triflin bloggers like myself to post at least 2-3 blogs to get our creative juices flowing and bring our blogs back to life. Any topic is cool..just make sure you have your own blog to post on! Be sure to share your links with me either in the comments or on social media.. cool? Cool.

Now..let's get into my first post of the month. September is my birthday month..GO VIRGOS! With my birthday right around the corner (9/11) I have been going between sitting in a corner rocking and crying that I'm getting older than I'm ready for and wondering where in the hell I went wrong because I still am not where I thought I would be at this age and trying to look back over the years to see if I have learned any dayum thing at all.

What you talking about Meik?

I'm glad you asked! Bear with me..this blog is a look back on the things that I have learned so far in my 30's. (I think I just low key told y'all I'm old! LOL)

1. Everybody is not your friend:

Allow me to elaborate. If you can't pick up the phone in a time of need and call certain folks--cuz they either send you to voice mail, ignore your texts, or hell change their number.. more than likely--that ain't ya friend. If they can't support you and have your back or even just shoot the ish with you--nawl ain't ya friend. Several folks I THOUGHT were friends over the years..just weren't..they were acquaintances that I now keep at a distance. (look at yourself and wonder if that's you LOL)--not everybody wants to see you succeed so some will tell you they will help you..and then lo and behold they get missing until they need something. Others just want you to be their sounding board and could give two damns about what you are going through.. again..not your friend.

2. Forgiveness is necessary:

I have held on to so much hurt and anger over King Mofo (he's the one that broke my lil heart into 1000000001 pieces and why I started blogging) anyhoo.. that hurt and anger got me nowhere..Unfortunately it took until just a year or so ago before I finally really realllllllly got some closure and was able to look him in the face and realize he ain't what I want or need anymore so I let go and forgave him and them trifling hoes he cheated on me with. See....okay maybe I still have a smidgeon of petty left.



3. Family is Everything!

Losing all of my grandmothers (I had 3--one was a step-grandparent) over the last few years has made me realize that work is work.. it will be there..family won't. I wish I could take back every single time I missed a family gathering, holiday, visits..all that because I had to work. I also realized that taking it back now won't bring them back but I sure wish I had those extra memories. So now I try to cherish every moment spent with family even when they tick me off to high heaven.

4. Embrace who you are:

For years I have struggled with weight, my self-esteem (a mofo cheating on you will do that ish to you --see more petty) and really trying to figure out just WHO Meik is..and by gawd I think I figured it out finally and am able to accept that this is me.....take me as a I am..a little pudgy in the middle (thanks fibroids) with a slight limp, and I'm a Jackson family loving, old school music loving chick that collects vinyl, and I'm a cheerleading judge that loves to write..I'm a lil shy..I cuss a lil bit..but I luh God.



5. This season of single is here for a reason:

Like most, I'm OVER being single and have been single for hell *counts* well a lot of years.. but one thing that I am sure of is..I needed to be single because I wasn't healed from the demise of my previous 8 year relationship. I needed to get to know me, heal, and figure out what it is I'm actually really looking for and throw away the 50 mile long list that I had of my requirements for a mate.. cuz lawd knows half of these mofos I went out with didn't even meet the top 5 --eh you live and learn I guess. Going into this next year has me excited about the possibilities that maybe just maybe bae is right around the corner!

6. I am not built for the hoe stroll:
I'm not knocking anyone who is comfy and prefers to go the casual sex route with any and everyone that tickles their genitals but for me and my household..nawl. After my breakup and trying to basically replace what I thought I had lost--I realized that this ain't for me.. I prefer to be in a relationship and not deal with all the "oooh catching feelings but I still wanna play games and have drama" ish-- so much so that I have been abstaining for quite some time (yearssss actually--judge if you want to chile) -- The struggle of abstaining is real when you have a fine arse dude that can hold a conversation and has a twinge of act right in front of you.. but ahem.. let me focus.. stimulate me mentally and then we'll see where it goes physically mmmk?



7. Hone your craft and don't be ashamed of it!

Like I said before I didn't really tap into my writing much until I got my heart broken repeatedly--and even then it took a while to find my voice. During my writing journey I stumbled upon something else I love besides blogging and that is doing interviews and telling the stories of some of our favs from back in the day..and even some of the current stars. Each interview that I have done has taught me lessons, I've made some great friends along the way, and more doors have opened. However, I don't get too comfortable--I still work my arse off to make sure I'm delivering a top notch quality interview--I do my research--I go to you guys to see what you want to know..and I wave my magic wand of words to make sure I make the subject and myself look like we have some sense.. basically hone your damn craft--but know that the work is never done..keep at it! I got picked on a lot for the types of interviews I chose to do..but look who ended up in Vanity Fair..where you at bruh?

8. Eating humble pie isn't as tasty as you'd like but it's needed:

Chile that Facebook "On This Day" feature will reveal all kinds of ish..for me it's shown me that from 2008-2012 I was an unbearable cocky arse mofo. Lemme explain-- appearing on a national television show in 2007 low key blew my head up but what humbled me a lil bit was not being able to find a job because of my portrayal on the show. Fast forward a few years because I still thought I WAS EVERYTHANG-- fibroids said "hey girl.. you think you bad..lemme add on some weight" ..and take it a step further get them thangs removed and then I'm half arse cripple.. I believe I have eaten a big arse piece of humble pie. I quickly humbled myself when I couldn't walk..couldn't do the things I used to..(see other blogs for the deets) but I literally had to realize that patience is a virtue and I needed to calm my arse down and stop being so... just..ughhhh thank goodness for growth right?

9. Sometimes YOU get in the way:

Sometimes the biggest obstacle in our way is well... US. I have an opportunity looming ahead of me now and I keep talking myself out of it cuz.. well I guess I like road blocks or something but maybe it's my virgo nature to look at things from all angles..but either way I'm in my own way. I have missed countless opportunities --because I was scared. Fear is a mofo.. but I have learned you have to get out of your own way! Step out on faith! (that really sounds good when I type it out but....)

10. Lastly, pretty boys ain't ish! LOL Just kidding! Seriously, this one is I have learned to walk away when it is evident that your crush is just not that into you. STORY OF MY LIFE CHILE!:

If you follow me on social media, you know I stay with a list of crushes..but there are a couple that I have had for a long time that reach all the way back to high school (let me just pause right here to say them mofos aged like fine wine and look so delicious but I digress).. and while it took me a long time to realize it, I finally said 'bish if he was interested, you wouldn't have to dayum reach out to him all the time, you wouldn't get stood up every time y'all make "plans," and he would actually oh I don't know... ACT interested?' Whew, another tough pill to swallow but a much needed slap in the face. Don't waste your time on mofos that ain't interested and don't want you. In the end, you are the only one who is walking around with hurt feelings and a pity party.


The ultimate lesson for me is to live life to the fullest and enjoy every single moment and not to give one hot darn about what anyone says.. I'm me.. take it or mofo'n leave it.



Of course there are more lessons but I thought I'd share some of them with you guys. Hopefully you learned something as well :)

So tell me dear readers..what are some lessons that you have learned in the past 5-10 years?

Bloggers--I will be looking for your posts this month!

Until Later..

~Meik

Greatness..



Greatness is defined as "the quality of being great, distinguished, or eminent."

What's the point of this Meik?

I'm oh so glad you asked.

I went to an event tonight where Common (YESSS That COMMON--rapper, actor..everythaaaang) was the guest speaker and his lecture was about greatness.



Now, I was in a pissy mood before I even got there so I wasn't sure how this was going to play out, besides, I was just hoping to get home before Scandal came on. (Don't you ask me why I went..that's MY biznass LOL)

Anyhoo..I thought what can Common tell us about greatness? I always try to keep an open mind and this time I'm glad that I did.

I'm not going to go into everything Common said, but I will sum it up for you.. he said you have to FIND your path, BELIEVE in your path, and LIVE your path and that will put you the road to GREATNESS. He also said in order to be great at something you have to practice and train to be the best that you can be at your path.

As I sat there listening to him and his examples, I realized something. I am not doing all three of those things in my professional or personal life and maybe that is why things seem to be stuck in quick sand.

Let me explain. My path-- As a writer.. I love to write. I went on a job interview not too long ago and the person interviewing me told me that I'd have to give up my freelance writing and my blog. At that moment I felt like I couldn't breathe. I couldn't wrap my brain around not being able to do what I love. So, bear with me here, fast forward to this symposium with Common speaking on greatness, it got me to thinking. I have found my path--Writing... telling people's stories as well as my own. I love the thrill of landing an interview that I have been trying to get, and the excitement that follows as I wait on pins and needles to see what the readers responses will be, will they like it? Did I tell the story well enough to make you want to know more about the subject etc... ? I can get lost for hours in writing, because it doesn't seem like a job..it's my passion.

Believe in your path. Here's where it gets a little shaky. Common spoke tonight about how he had 4 albums and still didn't believe in himself.. only when he began to surround himself with like-minded believers and learned to believe in himself..he put out the album that earned him 5 Grammy nominations. I realized, I hear people tell me I am a great writer, but I really don't believe it. I get shocked every single time someone says "I love your writing, you are a great writer." I tend to think, ME?! YOU SURE?! I blush and put it on the shelf, or I think my family is obligated to tell me that I'm great at it. I've never really truly believed in my own damn writing, which is a shame. I tend to question every single word, sentence, everything..and chalk it up to my Virgo nature. (lawd I can't believe I just told y'all this.. I am blaming it on the fireball shots I just took)

Live your path. To the outside world it may appear that I am living my path. I guess in a sense, I am, but part time. I need and CRAVE it to be a full fledged life on the yellow brick road type of path. However, God may still have me in "practice" mode and I'm just continuing to build my portfolio and getting better at writing and interviewing and learning how to deal with certain situations in the industry. While this could have had me down and depressed, it actually didn't it gave me hope that maybe just maybe things will start to unfold and my professional life will flourish once I start believing in myself.

Now, I mentioned the personal life well.. let's just say I have none of the above. Maybe once I find my path in that area and believe in myself (have more confidence and stop worrying that I'm not this or that and can get over the fact that I may never wear heels again in this lifetime), I can finally live on the path that I'm destined to be on and who knows I might bump into Mr. Right on the way. Common also talked about dimming your light for someone else, I realized I do that ish.. I dim my bright arse light of a personality sometimes well..because I want folks to like me I guess.. *shrugs* lemme put these bright arse bulbs in my lampshade so my light is NEVAAHHHHHH dim for anyone!

Needless to say my pissy mood vanished, and a fire was lit inside me, one that had dimmed out long ago. I thought back to a time when I wanted something so bad, that I practiced and practiced until I became great at it. Quick story.. 6th grade, I tried our for cheerleading at our middle school..which means I would have cheered on the middle school team during my 7th grade year. I had all the dayum confidence in the world, I had been cheering since I was 6, I got this right? I didn't make it. My jumps weren't good enough, high enough, and my motions weren't tight enough, and as shy as I was, I probably wasn't loud enough. All that could rip a poor girl's heart out, especially after your youth league teammates all make it onto the squad. I could have quit.. but instead, my parents told me you can still cheer, it will just be on youth league for one more year. For the next year, every single day, I could be found outside in the yard jumping, practicing, determined to be great. I would jump literally all the time hoping to make my jumps higher and higher. Tryout season rolled around, guess who made the team. Guess who had the best jumps for the rest of my cheer career (I cheered for many yearrrrrs after and semi-pro)? Those jumps led me to become an All Star Cheerleader. So I KNOWWWWWWWW there is a path to greatness.. you just have to PUSH yourself to get there.

Thank you Common for the reminder!

Have you guys found your path? Are you believing in it? Are you living it? If you haven't found it yet, don't worry.. God has planted a seed deep down inside, you just have to figure out what it is..and then get to working on being great!

Hope this inspires someone today! :)

Until Later....
Meik